Thoughts, disappointments, the past stories we tell ourselves and hang onto are often allowed to consume and define us.
We often turn to friends or family to vent about our issues, only to be met with
“Oh just let it go!”.
While they may be trying to help, how do you really feel when you tell someone about something that’s bothering you, and their response is ‘Just Let it go’?
In the past, I would be like yeah right, like whatever… how am I supposed to do that? When something is keeping you up at night or consuming every thought, how do you just forget about it? Worse still, it made me feel like what was troubling me was insufficient and that I didn’t matter. While they may have had good intentions, being told to “let it go” or to “stop stressing” only compounded the issue.
But, what if we really could just let our problems go?
Yes, you read that correctly. I want to share with you a few ways you can really just “let it go”. It’s time we put our problems in the past so we can become the best versions of ourselves.
Are you ready?
Here are five ways you can truly let it go.
1) Pick your audience.
When venting or sharing something that is bothering you, it’s worth considering who your audience is. Some people are naturally more supportive or resourceful than others. Whether it’s your partner or a few close friends, it’s good to know who you can call when you just need five minutes to unload. One friend may be good at listening to struggles with your family while another may be great with all problems relating to business. Identifying the strengths of your different friendships can also help you to define your own strengths in conversations.
2) Look for a solution.
It may seem like a simple answer, but sometimes the best way to let go of a problem is to solve it. Consider removing the negative emotion that you’re associating with the problem and look at the facts. Can you do something to change the situation? What steps can you take to correct your current issue?
Work at perceptional positioning! (You may need to come to my workshop event for this one amazing attendee reviews)
3) Allow yourself an allocated time to be annoyed, and that’s it.
If a problem can’t be solved at that time, then allow yourself some time to feel and process what has happened. Allocate a time to vent, cry, yell, or whatever you need to do to help understand what has happened. Afterwards, move forward. There’s no point in allowing your problem to have more air time than necessary. Stop allowing the problem to be the leading star of your life.
4) Write a letter about how the situation made you feel…Then burn it!
Carl Jung say “ That, that you make conscious ceases to exist.”
Write down everything you are feeling or experiencing on a piece of paper.It could be addressed to someone, or it could just be a few words to explain your emotional state. Then, burn the piece of paper! For some people, visually writing down their problems and setting them alight can be incredibly cleansing. Burning the problems can feel as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. You can even add some white sage with the letter as a ritual to “cleanse” the situation and yourself from negative energy, generate wisdom and clarity, and promote healing.
5) Focus on the little things.
When we get hung up on the big problems, we often forget to enjoy the smaller things. There are always moments of happiness in our life. Look to find three things each day that make you happy. It could be a great coffee or a kind word from a stranger. Practising gratitude can also allow you to let go of what you can’t control.
While it may seem impossible to simply “Let it go!” there are ways we can make sure our problems don’t consume our entire life.
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